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“A sculptor does not use a ‘manicure set’ to reduce the crude, unshapely marble to a thing of beauty. The saw, the hammer and the chisel are cruel tools, but without them the rough stone must remain forever formless and unbeautiful. To do His supreme work of grace within you, God will take from your heart everything you love most. Everything you trust in will go from you. Piles of ashes will lie where your most precious treasures used to be!” (A.W.Tozer)
"Self-pity is the psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence nor competence to cope with it. It is characterized by a person's belief that he or she is the victim of unfortunate circumstances or events and is therefore deserving of condolence. Self-pity is generally regarded as a negative emotion in that it does not generally help deal with adverse situations. However, in a social context, it may result in either the offering of sympathy or advice. Self-pity may be considered normal, and in certain circumstances healthy, so long as it is transitory and leads to either acceptance or a determination to change the situation.
Self-pity can be remarkably self-sustaining particularly in conjunction with depression or other conditions. However self-pity is a way of paying attention to oneself, albeit negatively; it is a means of self-soothing or self-nurturing ("I hurt so much").
Self-pity can also be linked as an emotional response that emerges in times of stress. In dealing with self-pity and stress, the most common tendency of reaction to stress is by feeling sorry for oneself. However, self-pity will also show individual differences within an individual that can be related to certain personality characteristics. Some of these personality characteristics are self-insecurity, depression and overindulgence in their failures, hardships and losses.
Social-Learning theorists say that self-pity is a method for gaining attention, where a child received attention, support, and nurturing while being sick or hurt. The child then grows up having learned to give attention to oneself (or ask for attention from others) while in real or dramatized distress. Thus, another form of self-sustainment can be sympathy offered by others (for example, someone might use the phrase "oh, you poor thing" to comfort the person in self-pity)."
'Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.' ~ Rumi
You are worth something! Don't let anybody tell you you are a good-for-nothing! Your potential is way beyond what you might possibly imagine! God gave you passions and emotions for a reason. Find out what you are passionate about - and go for it! Don't be scared to accept challenges on the way - they only help you grow. Whatever your life experiences may have been - you are loved so much by God He sent His only Son to die for YOU! Let that love fill your heart, grow in you and bear rich fruit. Pass it on to others. God told Adam it was not good for him to be alone. Neither is it for us. Seek the company of others. Life is not about following somebody else's plans, but the one God has set out for you by the way He designed you! Learning and growing does not simply mean passing on traditions and learning things others experienced by heart (that is how our school system works), but helping light the fire in us that brought forth all cultural and technical development. You are never too old to study and grow, neither do you lack the talent for it. All it takes is for you to fell the love - His love - and accept this adventure called life!
― Scott Hahn, Hope for Hard Times
Sometimes we are saddened by the weight of our sins. May we not be discouraged. Christ has come to lift this burden and give us peace.— Pope Francis (@Pontifex) February 1, 2014
There are many people in need in today’s world. Am I self-absorbed in my own concerns or am I aware of those who need help?— Pope Francis (@Pontifex) September 17, 2013
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do http://t.co/zaKwoYwRLW— Robert Gollwitzer (@gollwitzer) November 24, 2013
Emotional mapping http://t.co/ncmppWMcir— Robert Gollwitzer (@gollwitzer) January 1, 2014
"The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair." -Haldir #LOTRQuotes— Lord of the Rings (@LOTR_Quotes) October 8, 2012
"Oft hope is born, when all is forlorn." -Legolas #LOTRQuotes— Lord of the Rings (@LOTR_Quotes) December 15, 2012
"May it be a light for you in dark places, when all other lights go out." -Galadriel #LOTRQuotes— Lord of the Rings (@LOTR_Quotes) January 5, 2013
"In the end the Shadow was only a small and passing thing: there was light and high beauty for ever beyond its reach." #LOTRQuotes— Lord of the Rings (@LOTR_Quotes) January 6, 2013
You can tell when your enemy is defeated mentally:When they fight NOT to lose ... instead of fighting to WIN.— IDF Rabbi (@IDFrabbi) February 23, 2013
"When there's something in the Bible that churches don't like, they call it 'legalism.'" - Leonard Ravenhill— Dr. Michael L. Brown (@DrMichaelLBrown) March 6, 2013